tirsdag den 18. maj 2010

Psykologhjælp nu

Både Henriette og Mette kan fortælle en historie, og som dem anbefaler jeg nedenstående.
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5 kommentarer:

  1. Hej Prophecy :0)
    Ville uendelig gerne skrive en masse - specielt om, hvordan man overvinder sådan en krabat og kommer videre...
    Med risiko for, at få ørerne i maskinen og det halve blogland på nakken, så drister jeg mig alligevel til at skrive følgende:
    Jo mere opmærksomhed man giver sin depression, jo mere magt får den.
    Kan man forvirrer en depression ved at stille spørgsmål til den ?
    Svaret er JA.
    Depressionens væsen er jo netop, at den forsøger, at fastholde os i den mørke afdeling af livet - der hvor alle de "dårlige" følelser og tanker bor...
    Det er tankevækkende, at det visuelle udtryk for en depression 9 ud af 10 gange bliver vist, som en sammenkrøben person med hovedet nedad og omgivet af et mørkt rum.
    Og så er det jeg igen kommer ind omkring det, at få skabt en dialog med sit indre - de følelser der umiddelbart virker SÅ skræmmende og dødsensfarlige....viser sig jo, at være "en lille vandpyt, der har fået lov at vokse sig kæmpestor" fordi ingen har sørget for, at lænse vandet undervejs - sådan lidt metaforisk sagt!
    Det handler om, at turde tage ansvaret - ansvaret for sit indre, der er nemlig ingen andre der gør det for én - heller ikke psykologerne!
    Er jeg frelst - NEJ - men jeg tog kampen op og her på 15 år, er jeg stadig FRI og nyder livet!

    For hulen Prophecy, du kan få mig i blækhuset :0))
    Det er jo skide interessant, det du kaster ud i blogland!
    Keep going girl!
    Stort knus og kram herfra

    SvarSlet
  2. Kære Lotte
    tak for dit lange svar. Omend du finder mig modig, er jeg endnu ikke modig nok, til at tage den helt åbne diskussion herinde i forhold til mig. Det ville betyde, at blotte sig mere end jeg er klar til.
    Så jeg vælger at tilgå dit svar lidt generelt. Som udgangspunkt er jeg enig i mange af de ting du siger. Specielt det med den indre dialog. Kunsten må dog være, at få den drejet til det positive, når man først har fået kontakt?

    Din metafor med at lænse, har jeg altid beskrevet som ventil. Får jeg ikke ventilleret, det der påvirker mig, 'stopper' afløbet og jeg får en følelse af at eksplodere. heldigvis er jeg blevet bedre til at ventillere (som igen forudsætter at man kan mærke og kan sætte ord på), så eksplosionsfaren er mindre/ikke så ofte. Men det sker stadig. Som nu. Og når jeg når der til, præcis der, så kan jeg sjældent finde tilbage til årsagen for al dramaet.
    Den eneste erfaring jeg så har at byde ind med, er at give slip. lade sig synke ned i sølet, ikke kæmpe i mod, og hvis jeg er heldig, får grædt spændingen, proppen ud.

    For at slutte på en personlig note (det andet endte også lidt personligt), så har jeg kæmpet så længe jeg kan huske. Med og uden hjælp.

    Fri? Nej, det tør jeg ikke håbe på. Men jeg arbejder på det...når jeg igen er oppe af hullet jeg råber fra.

    SvarSlet
  3. Kære Prophecy igen igen :0)

    Jeg har på et tidspunkt skrevet til en god ven af mig (englænder), som havde en svær periode i sit liv og den periode havde det med at gentage sig.

    Jeg håber du får lige så meget ud af det, som han gjorde :0)

    Jeg sender det særskilt og måske endda i flere dele, da bloggen ikke vil tillade mere end 4096 tegn :0)

    Stort mega krammer herfra

    SvarSlet
  4. After chatting with you this evening, I have been thinking a lot about you and the fact that you’re in a very hard period of life right now. And because I have been there myself, I really want to give you a hand and try to help you as much I can.

    I know, how it is, to be on the edge of life and best of all, I know the way to foundation a ground and grow away from the big ocean inside.

    The most effective way was using the mirror-mind. I found out, that we contain the key for making us self grow.

    Our mind contains a whole group of “people and voices” from the early years in life and up true life until this particles ages in life.

    When a person experience hard times in life, mental, emotional and physical changes in life, the mind will response with chaos and disturbance.

    Using the mirror, its possible to get contact with the inner person, who makes most trouble at this special time.

    As we chat about tonight, there is something inside you in ages of 12, who want your attention.

    It’s important, that your listen to this kid and notice his face, his expressions, his feelings, and his acts and allow him to express everything with accept and love. Some times you will notice, that he is acting very bad – still accept this and tell him, that you love him and want to listen and take care of him, tell him you understand him and you will stay with him in this time.

    If he wants to cry, let him cry and wrap your arms around him and take care of him. If he wants to smash furniture’s (in the mind) – let him do it, and tell him, your still there and you still love him.

    It is about letting this boy grow emotional.

    When the boy lost his mother, never hearing her say, she loved him, could be the emotional outcome of feeling being alone and unhappy.

    It could be, that the boy felt himself lost in the world without mom and her love. Maybe the boy feels himself guilty of her dead and thinks it because he has been bad?

    Its important that you accept all the reasons the boy will come up to, only listen and taking care of him.

    If he feel guilty, its important that you forgive him, telling him, that he did the best he could at the time, he wasn’t able to handle different that time, maybe he was to young to understand, maybe he didn’t know…ect.

    It’s also important that you understand, that we always do the best in every situations in life, we have a backpack in life contain tools from our past, earlier experiences and so on…

    Its about to take these tools and make them better, make them grow. When we experience a situation like you do now, and have this inner feeling – want to scream out – its only because your tools isn’t “big” enough.

    The tools you need in life right now, is only 12 years old and can`t handle the situation. That’s why he is very important.

    The feeling of wanting to scream is a normal mental-way your mind trying to say: This inner isn’t big enough to act in, I want it to be bigger, if you don’t make it bigger, I’ll jump into the ocean.

    It’s normal to feel a lot of guilt, shame, sadness, darkness, and loneliness in fact all the dark emotions and its normal to feel, like madness and out of control.

    I know you can get through this hard time and grow into the light, where you feel comfortable about yourself and can give you self all good in life.

    As I told you, I will be here for you listen and helping, if you need it.

    I don’t want to "play" psychology or anything like this, but because I have been in the same situation, I can give you some tools to work with. I am feeling so free in my soul and enjoying life so much now. I would love to share this with others…if you know what I mean.

    Remember, you can’t love others before you love yourself. This sentence is so true. And from my point of view – you don’t know how to love yourself…you only know how to hate yourself and this has to change. Forgiving – forgiving – forgiving is the keyword!

    Hope this letter can be useful for you.

    SvarSlet
  5. Kære Lotte,
    tak fordi du deler dit fine brev med mig (os). Jeg genkender det, det med det indre barn, og jeg forsøger at tage mig af det i disse dage.
    God pinse. Kh

    SvarSlet